“When my daughter asks me why nobody answers her, I tell her that she is not the problem, that being different is not a problem, that everything would be very monotonous if we were all the same”. These are the words of a mother trying to explain to her daughter the treatment she receives every day from her peers. At the age of 13, the young woman studies at an institute in A Estrada, where she struggles to integrate as well as possible each day, although without success. Diagnosed with Spectrum Disorder Autism (TEA), the student has a hard time interacting with classmates and is unable to understand numerous social guidelines that are set today, but that does not make her a worse person or lacking in feelings. That is the idea that his already desperate mother tries to convey to us when explaining his situation.
"At no time is friendship being sought, my daughter is not looking for friends. Friendship is different, it is a personal relationship, inside and outside the educational center"
“At no time is friendship being sought, my daughter is not looking for friends. Friendship is different, it is a personal relationship, inside and outside the educational center. What we should talk about is camaraderie. The companionship must be present from the first moment. A person, like a teenager, a child, may like more or less, but we must never forget what empathy is. How a certain person can feel about our actions. I must say that it is not the first time that my daughter feels excluded, and I am sure that it will not be the last”, they explain from the young woman's family, who have decided to step forward and expose their case after the recent events experienced by the young woman.
“My young son has been diagnosed with covid as a result of an antigen test and saved quarantine timely for seven days. My daughter, despite being negative, due to social ethics and camaraderie, has also stayed at home”. From there, the center gave him its support. “Part of the teaching staff suggested asking his classmates for notes. This task has become a complete odyssey. In conversations with the students in my daughter's class, the tutor suggested incorporating her into a group of WhatsApp of the class. As soon as she was a member of this group, she kindly thanked, and under my supervision, the incorporation, and politely asked if any of her classmates could pass her the notes of a certain subject. 24 hours later, none of her colleagues have contacted her in any way. There was an awkward silence in the group.
"Part of the teaching staff suggested asking his classmates for notes. This task has become a complete odyssey"
This is just one more episode of everything that this young student experienced during her time at the school in Estrada. Last year didn't end well for her, so the teachers decided to change her class this year, but she ran into trouble again. “She is very quiet and is always alone. She doesn't look for company and that makes her a lonely girl. The problem is that there is no one to lend a hand. But nevertheless, She has a friend outside of class with whom she gets along very well. You just need trust."
Her isolation has ended up turning the young woman into "the weirdo" of the class, adding bad gestures from her classmates. Thus, on one occasion they excluded her from the gift that everyone bought for the teacher despite offering herself and sent her out of the classroom when they went to give it to her.
"She is done Many questions. He doesn't understand why they do this to him. He is going to the psychologist and is having a bad time, ”explains the mother. “The accelerated life to which we are subjected, makes each one look for himself, without worrying about what is next to him. And this is contagious to our children. We are beings lacking empathy and those who, for one reason or another, are not governed by established social norms and attitudes, are rare creatures, to whom no one lends a hand.
"What if it happened to you?" It is the question that the family of the young woman from Estrada raises. Hidden in the answer is the empathy that your daughter needs to be happy.