Although sex is not the main reason why patients come to the consultation of this professional trained in sexual and couples therapy, Mayor assures that the problems related to this area as a result of the situation caused by the virus have proliferated, especially in what has to do with a low libido. “It is something that occurs in both women and men”, although the latter are the ones who, in the long run, can fare worse. And it is that while they “are not so scared” to have less sexual appetite; For them, in many cases, it can become a long-term problem. The reason is that “the state of mind can influence when it comes to having erections at a certain time, which causes an anticipated fear to develop in many men that it will happen again,” he points out.
Likewise, the psychologist explains that the decrease in sexual desire occurs both among couples and singles who want to have sporadic relationships. In the case of the former, he says that the pandemic has accentuated both the positive and the negative. That is, those healthy relationships have been strengthened, in the same way that those that had deficiencies have been harmed. “After confinement, many relationships have been broken and others have entered into crisis and in all of them, sexual life is something that has suffered,” he says.
It has also been like that, although in a different way, for those single people who have sporadic relationships or want to meet someone. In this case, Mayra Mayor argues that the main cause, in addition to those mentioned above, is the fear of contagion. “Many patients in this situation tell me that they are resigned to meeting someone later. This especially happens among people who are very aware of the issue of the pandemic and are afraid of relating to unknown people who could have coronavirus. That is why, from their point of view, this group is the one with the “worst off” in this situation since the options for starting a new relationship, of whatever nature, have been reduced. However, “there are other people who have not minded meeting and meeting other people to have sex these months, despite the virus.” In fact, the study by Sexuality Research and Social Policy also reveals that “4.1% of Spaniards admit that they skipped confinement to have sex with another person”, despite the fact that according to experts non-monogamous relationships represent a risk of contagion.
In the same way, Mayor affirms that there are also those who use sex “as an anxiolytic” because “it has many positive effects: it releases more endorphins, increases serotonin and decreases the levels of cortisol in the blood, which is the main stress hormone”. Everything, he points out, “will depend on the person”, but also on many factors. “It is something that we can even relate to the diet that, for example, worsened during the months of confinement in which the sedentary lifestyle also increased. This caused many citizens to gain weight, which has generated self-esteem problems. And when a person has a negative image of himself / herself, it also influences body image and that affects sexual desire ”, he adds.
“If one is not well, yes or yes, it will affect sexual life because in sexuality, we could say, our cognitive, emotional, social and lifestyle habits land. You have to understand the human being as an integral self in which everything is interrelated and the pandemic has made us have changes in many facets of life and all that influences, “adds the psychologist. Hence, as a professional, you recommend to your patients that they work towards their individual emotional well-being. “And those who have a partner also have to take care of the partner, just like those who have a family have to take care of this plot,” he says.
Looking ahead, the psychologist asserts that “it is very possible that the pandemic is decisive in sexual life, since the way of relating has also changed.” In this sense, he says that before the health crisis, “the strength to meet people was social life and mobile applications were a complement”, something that he believes will change when everything passes. “I think apps such as the search for a partner’s life have come to stay and are going to be one of the strongest tomorrow, even if social life recovers.”
In the same way, it considers that we must wait for the studies that will be carried out in the coming years on how the presence of Covid-19 has psychologically affected society. “If we start from the basis that sexuality is influenced by what we think, what we feel or what we do, post-pandemic behaviors will be affected in some way by all this and those changes will also have repercussions on a sexual level.”