A government study indicates that in Spain an average of more than six out of ten boys and girls of school age practice sports under the supervision of a monitor or coach and outside school hours. It is easy to understand that thanks to this they not only acquire skills and physical skills, but they also develop guidelines that have to do with cooperation, respect or integration. You work with the kids, schools of coaches proliferate and that's why they are getting better prepared, the referees have schools where they train. "But in all this microsystem there is a fourth agent, fathers and mothers," says Alfredo Sáenz, a doctor in Social Psychology from the University of Zaragoza. And there the question arises: How is parents educated?
Soccer, especially at the base, removes consciences with some frequency. Interest springs away from ethics, frictions, fights that go viral. And alarms sound that dissipate until the next row. A few months ago, an event occurred in A Coruña that went unnoticed. A 9-year-old boy called a rival "black shit", his coach listened to him, reprimanded him and explained that the next match was going to see him from the bench even though his football level was above that of his players. companions. The mother took it to another team. "I found out what happened, it made me think and we organized workshops aimed at parents and a talk with referees who made their work known to parents, technicians and players," explains Alfonso Queijo, president of Orillamar, a grassroots classic coruñés
Nor did he invent anything that did not exist. What is relevant is that there are more and more initiatives like this. "We touch on issues such as healthy habits, first aid or violent behavior," Queijo adds. That is the chicha, how to approach and reduce verbal and even physical violence in an area that should be educational and recreational. "We try to give parents some parameters so they can control their emotions in their children's games, we explain to them that they are a mirror and that they value how they can feel when they hear them insulting or getting in someone," says Javier Torres Gómez , who for 16 seasons was a football professional at Real Madrid and Valladolid, and in the last two seasons he toured almost all the clubs in LaLiga with a school for parents.
Now, back to the pucelano team, he directs a multidisciplinary department of Sports Sciences. "There we also worry that parents see that the way they act in front of football is a lesson in life that they give to their children." And details: "If when the children are facing a situation like the substitution and parents defend them, justify, criticize the coach or even change teams without trying to find solutions for themselves, we are inviting them not to face problematic situations in day to day. "
Pioneer event in Sagunto
Exercising the will of parents is not easy, because in addition the most aware are just those who attend classes. "And they are more common bad behavior in the stands away from the large quarries, which also have other problems with family members," says Sáenz, who develops initiatives that offer tools for parents to learn to manage emotions. He works with territorial federations, clubs or town councils such as Sagunto, where he will head in April a pioneering event on sports and education which will be exhibited actions that promote sportsmanship in training environments.
"We take the parents to the field, to control the ball before a situation of observation or pressure, to reproduce what live coaches, referees or players. We exchange roles and provoke uncomfortable situations so that they know how they feel and how to control themselves, "he explains. Torres Gomez also goes in that line, which not only groups the family member who criticizes and censures everything that moves but the gaudy coach: "A technician who prepares something, but the player is mistaken, loses the ball and gets a goal in against. What to do there? We explain the importance of choosing gestures and moments. Many times eating the genius goes to the benefit of the formation of a kid. "
"We have to try, that parents are aware that the relationship of children with sports is to enjoy and acquire values," concludes Queijo, who invites us to relativize: "There will always be whoever is short of all this, they tell you that his son deserves more or that the club is not up to his standards because he loses a lot of games. Usually it's people who are in a great hurry and little traveled. "