He arrives with a determined step, aware that people are watching where he passes. “It’s still hard for me to go down the stairs with heels,” he says funny, funny or amusing, all the formulas seem valid to him. Although from certain sectors of politics it is even ridiculed, inclusive language is important, he explains it himself. “People need references”, He alleges, and he wants to be one. Her name is Nayim Temine, she is from Gijón and has been in Madrid for almost four years. He arrived in the capital in September 2017 to study Interpretation in the specialty of Musical Theater at the Royal High School of Dramatic Art. Then he was ready to eat the world. What he did not know is that, although his ambition has only increased, that person who was barely of legal age has little to do with the person today. In a central restaurant he talks to Prensa Ibérica about the stereotypes, the acquired vices of society and their hopes that the new generations will change the world on the occasion of the celebration of the World Day against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia, which is commemorated this May 17.
“I think that the biggest problem is misinformation. People are not interested in what is foreign to them, they only try to understand it when it touches them closely. And still, it is difficult for older people. That’s why the difference is so noticeable, you just have to look at the teenagers who are now in high school ”, he explains. He claims that this is largely explained because the collective LGTB it moves faster and that is why there is always a gap with the rest of society. Not for nothing, just 31 years ago, on May 17, 1990, that the World Health Organization (WHO) he stopped considering homosexuality as a mental illness. In fact, in many countries it is still considered a crime, in some it is even sentenced to death. You don’t have to go far to see this rejection just look at the situation in Poland, where the setback in the rights of homosexual people is more than evident.
Stereotypes are a drag against which they fight every day. “That you are homosexual does not mean that you are one way or another. That you are gay does not mean that you have a pen. They are patterns that completely cut off the development of the person, “he says, and assures that behind that there is nothing more than homophobic behaviors and patriarchal tendencies:” They have taught us that the less it is noticed that you are homosexual, the better.
Nayim wears clothes traditionally associated with women some days and with masculine garments others. “It is a reflection of my state of mind, it has nothing to do with a costume or attracting attention. I am aware that they are looking at me on the street, but I don’t care. There are a thousand ways of being a man and a woman, as many as there are people in the world. It’s the same thing that happens with sexuality ”, he says. He also tells how he got to this point thanks to being in a multicultural city. He confesses that in Gijón it is still difficult for him, but he tries, because he knows that he can be a reference for many people. “That they see me helps them to know that I exist, that this part of society exists. Let them tell me what they want, so they realize that I exist”, He affirms, although he also regrets that they have even told him that by being dressed in that way contributes to more homophobia. “He does not want you to accept me, that would imply that you are superior to me. I just want you to understand me ”, he claims. He does it being aware of how cruel society is: “If you don’t meet the standards, you fall. In men it is evident, but in women it is even more pronounced ”.
is defined as cis male, homosexual and with non-binary gender expression. And it is necessary to differentiate between sex identity, sexual orientation and gender expression, although sometimes they are terms that overwhelm those who are caught new. The latter includes, among many other things, the way of dressing. It has a very broad spectrum. Nayim says that to know himself it helped him to have references. That is why he says that in Madrid it is easier to be himself, because he sees that more people are like him. Based on this, he also claims that there are more examples in the public sphere. “For example, Pablo Alborán. We all applauded when he came out of the closet, but if he had done it earlier it would have helped us so much… ”, he reflects.
Little by little, society also advances. “Until recently, if I wanted to try on a garment that was in the women’s section, I had to go to the fitting rooms in the men’s area. Now not anymore, and it is a step ”, he says, although he urges that the distinction between men and women is eliminated in clothing stores.
Visibility in the media also contributes to this. He gives an example of the series ‘Poison’. “There are many people who have realized the suffering of trans people thanks to that series. They believed that it is something that is chosen and it is not. This helps people to develop empathy towards this group ”, he says. And, going back to the references, Transgender people appearing in the cinema or theater is one more step: “I myself have been offered to play a trans person, but I declined. It is the same as if to make a black person they take a white person and paint their face ”.